So, like, last night I read this article ("Why Men Can't and Shouldn't Stop Staring at Women") so that I could read this response to it that showed up on my tumblr dashboard. I encourage you to read both, but basically the original article talks about how ladies are hot and it's natural for straight dudes to want to look at them, especially when they're out there on the street wearing such revealing clothes! And then the response says how actually ladies are people and don't just exist to be looked at.
And while, yes, I have issues with the article that mostly amount to what the response brings up (not quite, though, we discussed some of my thoughts on clothing here a long time ago), I also have this issue, which is that I am constantly checking out dudes. I know that this is supposedly different, because society, but when I'm doing a double take at some hottie on the street, it's not because I'm thinking, "Oh dearie me, what a manly man who is probably good at his job and intelligent and caring and also has issues and desires and agency separate from mine, all of which I am cognizant and respectful of because he is a human being!" What I'm thinking is more along the lines of, "Hot damn, that dude is attractive enough to bone."
Am I the only lady lech out there? Can we not agree that it's possible to compartmentalize the objectification of people you glance at and then never see again from the way that we treat/think of people who we actually know or at least interact with in a meaningful way?
Could I possibly just be a complete jackass?! If so, please explain where I'm going wrong on this! Seriously!